Comments on: Life is an inside job: What is it we need from ourselves to be successful in a relationship?

By: Kathleen Barry

Kathleen Barry — Thu, 06 Aug 2015 19:34:37 +0000

Thank you for your thoughtful feedback!

Kathleen

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Sat, 04 Jul 2015 03:28:59 +0000

Honest and well written post. Yikes! Putting oneself “out there” following major life disappointments is the most courageous of feats. I congratulate you in your bravery. How do we enjoy the blissful moment(s) when we know the moment(s) will definitely end–someday–someway? Ouch!

By: Cathy Sargent

Cathy Sargent — Fri, 03 Jul 2015 23:44:48 +0000

Dance as if no one is looking, love like you’ve never been hurt and work like you don’t need the money.

This is what I noticed about Kathleen when we first met at an MFT luncheon 10 years ago.

I am not there yet.

I am not able to love like I’ve never been hurt in Santa Barbara for some reason.

Thousand Oaks is different. There is an unbelievable amount of single midwestern quality men that I see everywhere there in my age bracket. It is astonishing!

And although entertaining the idea of maybe dating one of them, I would rather eat whatever I want without getting fat.

Instead I have fallen in love with Alexander Scourby the great Shakespearean actor who reads the King James Version on my iPhone. The words mysteriously get grafted in giving me peace, joy and love while I am stuck in traffic on the 101.

Thank you Kathleen for your transparency and your willingness to be vulnerable.

We need more Legally Blondes and legally Brunettes!.

By: Shawn haugen

Shawn haugen — Fri, 03 Jul 2015 05:53:37 +0000

At first was very surprised to hear that a guy in his 60s is that immature, thoughtless, cowardly, and rude. Am so sorry – truly, what a jerk, and sad that he was your first experience back in the dating world, but glad that you are reflecting. However, then thought about it more, and actually am not so surprised, since why should we assume that age necessarily brings eradication of bad traits or habits! After dating for 30 years (did not marry Brian until my mid forties and having several long relationships and one very long relationship in my 30s), saw it all (sadly) – could and probably should write a book! Before meeting Brian, had finally reached the conclusion that I would be fine if I stayed single for the rest of my life and made plans with single girlfriends to create communal living situations in our retirement – had a wonderful group of friends. When dating the last five years or so before marrying, by then I knew exactly what I wanted — and did not want — in a guy and was quite adamant (against all the rules) that I was unwilling to spend another year or two dating someone seriously without the eventual goal of marriage; otherwise, I insisted that dates would stay casual and only for fun and companionship. I was extremely reluctant to let my heart and hopes get involved. Oddly, think that position made me strong enough and ready to make it happen and work – and was lucky to find a man of like mind at the right time. By the way, we met via online dating in a fluky situation.